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Tuesday, 29 January 2013


For all those possessive fellas...


"Once upon a time there was a bird, adorned with two perfect wings and glossy, colorful, marvelous feather, a creature made to fly about freely in the sky, bringing joy to everyone.

One day a man saw the bird and fell in love with her. He watched her flight, her mouth wide in amazement, heart pounding, eyes shinning with excitement. He invited the bird to fly with him and the two traveled across the sky in perfect harmony.

But then he thought: she might want to visit far-off mountains! And he was afraid he would never feel the same way about any other bird. And he felt envy, envy for the bird’s ability to fly. He felt alone and he decided to trap the bird, so that she will never leave again.

The bird, also in love with him, returned the following day, fell into the trap and put in a cage.

He looked at the bird everyday. There she was, the object of his possession, and he showed her to his friends, who said: ‘Now you have everything you could possibly want’. However a strange transformation began to take place: now that he had the bird and no longer needed to woo her, he began to lose interest. The bird, unable to fly and express the true meaning of her life, began to waste away and her feathers lose their gloss; she grew ugly; and the man no longer paid him any attention, except by feeding her and cleaning her cage.

One day, the bird died. The man felt terribly sad and spent all his time thinking about her. But he did not remember the cage, he thought only of the day when he seen him for the first time, flying contentedly amongst the clouds. He had never realized that what had thrilled him about the bird was her freedom, the energy of it’s wings in motion, not her physical body." Courtesy : Paulo

This is the general way of looking at romantic love. When you love someone, you want all the commitment in this world that she would never leave you, will always be there for you with her physical presence. In another words, you want to own the person you love, you want to possess her. You feel jealous if you find her giving her attention towards someone else. You bring the so special feelings, called love, down to a mere earthly phenomenon, to a some kind of social contract. You feel proud to show others, ‘This is my man’, ‘That is my girl’.

Love, in reality is a free feeling, the concept of loving a person without owning him/her. This is, in fact the true experience of freedom: “having the most important thing in the world without owning it” (Paulo Coelho). There is no bonding, except that of a heart, which is again nothing but freewill. There is no place of commitment, possession, need, betrayal or jealousy. It’s not a habit, a commitment, or a debt. It’s like a flowing river, which is, if you try to trap, will only be stagnant.

When you love someone this way, unconditionally, where your only concern is the peace and happiness of your loved one without expecting anything in return, it can take you fly above near God. Your romantic love reaches the height and depth of spiritual love. You don’t try to trap her or possess her. You know you love her without any reason. You are always there to speak for the sake of your loved ones, and you are also ready to keep mum a lifelong for the happiness of your loved ones. You don’t mind separation of a lifetime if that can bring a single smile to her lips. It doesn’t matter to you what she thinks about you, whether she loves you or not, when, even her cool indifference does not make your heart any less warmer towards her. You meet or part, it doesn’t make any difference; you know there is always a bond between you two, something above all earthly affairs/relationships, something invisible, that have not been imposed upon, something that has existed there from zero to eternity, a connection of soul.

We all try to trap our love bird in the cage of a relationship, full of all it’s dos and don’ts, where love loses its glory and becomes a mere ritual. We just fail to realize that it’s the freedom, the energy of her wings which actually thrills us, not her mere physical presence inside a cage. Trust me, if you love the bird, set it free, let it fly of the far off mountains. If it’s meant to be yours, it will be back. And if it goes beyond your horizon and doesn’t return, perhaps it was not meant to be yours.

1 comment:

  1. Wow... Mind-blowing... I wonder how I haven't come across such a magnificent view of urs till today... I am pretty sure that there will be none whose heart won't be touched after going through the above lines of actuality... Nonetheless please keep this in mind... being independent and being strong make you stronger only.